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Mrs. Maroon

August 5, 2015

Discombobulated

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I’m completely out of sorts… I’ve been in a funk for a while… I mean, look at the calendar, 107, one hundred and seven – I haven’t logged on to share anything in 107 days. And just like the last time we had a lapse in posts, I’m chock full of excuses. Oh my, and with another look at the calendar, that was one year ago today*. Eerie… (start singing Twilight Zone music in your head, please)

 

I have plenty of utterly logical, reasonable, practical reasons excuses to the explain rationalize the whole situation in my head. Bottom line, the excuses suck. And more importantly, they are getting me nowhere. The excuses aren’t helping me to shake this funk. And they sure as hell aren’t helping me achieve any goals.

 

The Turnaround

Something must change. Mr. Maroon achieved great clarity with Google, so why can’t I?


Very descriptive, I know.

 

I  Can Choose Happiness?

Wait… What?! You can actually choose to be happy? It’s not just one of those things that happens or doesn’t happen for you?

 

I’d be telling a bold-faced lie if I didn’t admit that Mr. Maroon has told me this same message repeatedly. Why is it that ideas don’t sink in when the people we love the most tell us? (Admit it, you know how you rolled your eyes at your mother’s advice in high school only to realize ten years later that she was SOOO right.) Nevertheless, here I am presented with the same idea. And for my basic well-being, I must internalize it.

 

I choose to be happy.

 

 I do believe I will be coming back the High Existence again in the future... like tomorrow morning.


I do believe I will be coming back to High Existence again in the future… like tomorrow morning.

 

What Elephant?

The elephant here in our virtual room is what happened to me; what happened to us? How on earth could we disappear for a quarter of the year? We let life intervene. I habitually let the ‘duty’ of umpteen zillion chores overshadow my most important roles of all… Wife. Mommy. I wear many other hats too, just like everyone else. But those are the ones that I would cover in sequins, glitter, feathers, and more to show off. Or better yet, I’d soak them in love for my family, sweat from my effort, tears from my joy, and blood from my heart. That is what matters most.

 

I can tell you that the outlet of Mixing Maroons is most definitely a bonus for our financial situation. We are still dead-set on marooning ourselves to find our definition of happiness. But (using but is always such a downer), without regular updates shared here, I wasn’t tracking our expenses and tabulating how we spent every penny. That looseness snowballed into a relaxation of our spending habits.

 

I’m still rambling on. I haven’t yet pieced it all together yet. But is that really the goal? Or maybe, just maybe, should I take a step back from the should statements and just relax. Enjoy this life. Focus on the good. Let the other junk fade away. I am a wife. I am a mommy. And I owe it to those three other folks that sleep in my house every night to be the best damned woman I can be.

 

No more funk.

 

~ Mrs. Maroon

 

* In what has become my typical fashion, I first wrote these words last Wednesday nigh. I’m just now getting around to hitting that elusive Publish button…

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  1. Comment by Christina @ Embracing Simple — August 5, 2015 @ 8:40 PM

    YAY you’re back!! I was wondering what the heck happened to you haha. Sorry to hear you’ve been in a funk, I was in a funk last month too and wasn’t being the best wife and mom I could be as a result. Glad you’re entering out of that “funky” phase, on to happier days. Very very happy to see you back in blogland! 🙂
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    Mrs. Maroon Reply:

    Happy to be back. It’s crazy how typing into a computer can be therapeutic. I hope to get back into the swing of writing as a means to stave off the funk. This post is the start as my pep talk to myself. I don’t think I’ve quite shaken it yet, but this is my start!

    And, holey smokes… Nice job on your monthly blog traffic!!

  2. Comment by Maggie — August 5, 2015 @ 9:36 PM

    I totally agree. I’ve been in a funk lately too. I haven’t been taking care of myself very well and so I also haven’t been the best as a mom either. I’m trying to structure my time better to feel good, prioritize the kids, and still be somewhat productive. It’s a constant need for rebalancing! Welcome back! I discovered and read your blog in your absence, so it’s nice to meet you!
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    Mrs. Maroon Reply:

    I’m delighted to hear that you found us, though wish it hadn’t been during my down time. Re-balancing is a constant process. Although I don’t embody this advice all the time, I do see the correlation between taking care of yourself and being a good mom. Just keep re-balancing as time goes on!

  3. Comment by Mr. SSC — August 5, 2015 @ 10:26 PM

    man, I’d just been thinking that I hope you guys didn’t quit blogging, I missed the posts! Funks are funks and well, life sometimes takes over. Like someone recently posted about frugality, “if it feels like a chore, you’re over doing it and dial it back to a good comfort level.” There are times the 10 hr days, uncertainty of work, requests from kids and life in general take precedence and our blog slips. I post when it works out and I want to. Be you and blog as you see fit. No explanations.
    Glad to have you back! No pressure for more, lol. I do enjoy your posts though!
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    Mrs. Maroon Reply:

    Great quote about frugality. We’ve been suffering from the chore a little bit. We’ve talked about dialing it back some, though not yet committed to it. I still want to reach that FI!

    One thing I am committed to is not letting Mixing Maroons get away from being the heart of us!

  4. Comment by Mrs SSC — August 6, 2015 @ 5:30 AM

    Yeah – we missed you guys! I’ve been contemplating sending you an email just to check in on you 🙂 You may have noticed, I haven’t been writing many posts lately either – luckily Mr. SSC has been inspired. We had a smaller lapse earlier this year, where we weren’t just feeling it, and we realized – that is ok, we don’t want blogging to feel like a chore. I sympathize with the funk – being a mommy, wife, employee, and CEO of the household can completely drain the mental energy!
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    Mrs. Maroon Reply:

    Amen to the chore – I have plenty of those. I don’t need to add any more!! I enjoy the writing. It can be therapeutic. I hope that it can help me stay above the funk in the future. The household CEO is the most draining aspect to me.

    And we are thinking about y’all with the upcoming goings-on at work. While I love the gas prices right now, I also respect that it comes with some serious implications for LOTS of jobs. Hope you fare well!

  5. Comment by Kirsten — August 6, 2015 @ 8:33 AM

    There was some heavenly intervention going on… Last night I went to look at my Bloglovin’ feed because I thought I MUST have accidentally deleted your blog. But nope, it was there. Unupdated. And I thought to myself, so sad…

    Then here you are today, writing about choosing to be happy. Which is SO WEIRD because I actually just started a new blog that is totally going to focus on that. I have a hard time choosing happiness. I have suffered with clinical depression in the past and the stress of being a wife, mom, and employee does not help matters. I hope to flesh that new site out more (now that I’m quitting my job – tomorrow!) and maybe it would be something that we can connect on.
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    Mrs. Maroon Reply:

    Heavenly intervention indeed!

    I hope you will be sharing information about your new blog with the rest of us on Indebted Mom.

    And best of luck with all of your family changes – location, job, house, everything… Along for the ride!

  6. Comment by Our Next Life — August 13, 2015 @ 10:07 PM

    Welcome back! As you can see from all the folks excited to see you return, it shows that you can take breaks if you need them. The worst thing of all is letting the blog be a source of stress, since you already have so much on your plate! But look forward to hearing what you’ve been up to, and where you see yourselves headed.
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